Oh I love Nintama! I've got my limits when it comes to older Japanese animation, but that's one of the ones I really appreciate the design of!
And all I meant was the standards kids are held to. God help you if you should deviate from the system in so many ways. You're not just disappointing your parents, you're potentially getting yourself disowned and ruining your life.
I heard about that actually.. but I thought the system was a myth, is individuality shunned I wonder? I notice that even in music groups all dress the same in suits. But I seriously thought this was a myth, I don't know if it was you or someone but I got linked to this forum/article about someone's life in Japan, which had a lot of experiences from the writer.
It's not a myth. Kids go to school after school to keep their grades up, then they have to pass ridiculously difficult tests to be able to get into the right schools. If someone drops out of school, they most likely will end up with no choice but the construction trade or working in fast food or janitorial jobs the rest of their lives. It's rare for anyone to go back to college once they've dropped out, as well. It's not encouraged like in the States to just go to night or adult school, though some people do. It's just not the norm.
I don't know what you read, but of course some people are going to be able somehow to break out of the system and manage to survive. People usually just do what's expected of them because it's what everyone else does, is all.
You have to be careful about things like blogs you read online, too, as a side note. Some of them are extremely negative and love to create stereotypes about Japanese folks, which then are picked up on and spread further by other bloggers until the average person does a search and finds nothing but the ugly stereotype information as an answer. I ran into a perfect example of this a while back when I was looking up information about how to cash a U.S. check in Japan. I did a google search on it, hoping it would turn up in a forum, and guess what it turned up: A bunch of gaijin idiots in Tokyo perpetuating some idea that tellers at banks will do nothing but "suck their teeth" at you and deny your request. Isn't that flattering? Some random moron thought he was being funny, and as a result, several others picked up on it and spread it around, as I saw the same answer several times on different Japan forums. I wanted to scream. FYI, when I ended up doing the same thing for the same reason, the tellers in my city were extremely nice and ended up helping me every step of the way. There was no "teeth sucking" at all. >_<
There's a similar favorite myth about all gaijin being hassled by Japanese cops. And I mean hassled as in unreasonably stopped, screamed at and dragged into the nearest koban, possibly being detained for hours. Maybe that's what happens in Tokyo to people who are obviously violating the law (and won't admit it, just want to vent somewhere), but police in this city don't even look twice at me. I've never been stopped once. As a matter of fact, a guy I worked with briefly was stopped once because his wife was riding the back of his bicycle (which is common but illegal, kinda like not wearing a helmet in the US). Additionally, he didn't have his "gaijin card" on him, which is required by law that all foreigners in Japan carry on their person at all times. The police simply sent him off with a warning, and it was an amicable chat. No biggie.
If you want, I will note you with my blog address. It's unknown to people on DA, but it addresses all kinds of rumors and stereotypes created by embittered foreigners in Japan who have nothing better to do but bitch about Japan, its people and culture. I try to oppose that crap when I can.
Man that is just depressing, really... it's just "do or die"? that makes me a little sad at how selfish we are over here with all the second chances we get for our education... I really respect the Japanese for being so persistent. I've never heard of that Teeth sucking though... that's kinda messed up, is it a old racy remark?. I had trouble with money in Japan, everyone was so nice, even that guy in a hurry that bumped into me once on the bullet train.
yeah it would be great to get your blog, i wouldn't want to read the ones of a bunch of silly folks from the US full of there wonderful incoherent insight : ) Though once I was told by my guide that the police do nothing if a gaijin is in trouble. but I think he was just talking out of his rear, I imagine if i was a policeman I'd want to use that training for something, like chasing down badguys or something.
And don't worry about it as you saw with my last note (I think you saw my reply i'm not too sure) I write alot too, but its fine, i just love to write and be clear as a bell as possible but yeah I'd love to read your blog, it would be awesome to read indeed.
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